For the last three weeks, I have dealt with the pain of rejection, the fear of rejection and the characteristics of self rejection. I wrote in my previous blogs that rejection leads to the fear of rejection and self rejection. When an individual experiences rejection, they go through life guarding themselves from future rejection and they do this by building walls which keeps other people out of their lives. The other manifestation of rejection is self rejection- because of the rejection experienced, you think something is wrong with you so you start rejecting your self and if not dealt with, it starts to lead to other areas such as depression, addiction and suicide.
In this article, I want to focus on the fact that you are rejected for purpose. Throughout my experiences of rejection, I have learnt a few things;
- Rejection is God’s protection
- Rejection is a direct indication that you have now outgrown your environment and it is now time to move to your next dimension.
- Rejection is an indication that there is greater in you and better for you.
- Rejection is an indication that what is inside of you, the people in your environment do not have the capacity to handle what is on the inside of you.
When I think of rejection, the analogy that comes to me is that of a baby in a mother’s womb, when it is time for that baby to come forth, the womb rejects the baby because the baby has outgrown its environment. In the scriptures, we see many people who have suffered rejection but we see how their rejection has worked for a greater good.
At Jesus’s birth there was no room for Mary to give birth at the inn (Luke 2:7), so Mary had to give birth to Jesus in a manger. In the manger, animals, tools and agricultural produce were stored. Jesus’ birth was not perfect yet he became the saviour of the world. Jesus was rejected by His own people, His very own people came together and had Him crucified- they chose Barrabas to be freed and Jesus to be crucified. But Jesus’ death had purpose because three days later He rose from the dead and it is because of His sacrifice and because of the blood of Jesus we have full access to God and His grace. The rejection of Jesus had and still has purpose (Psalm 118:22).
In Judges chapter 11:1, the bible describes Jephthah as a mighty man of valour. It also says that Jephthah was the son of a harlot(prostitute). His father’s wife had more sons and they threw him out because of who his mother was. Have you ever been rejected because of who your mum or your dad was? I have- but God saw it fit to use Jephthah to conquer the children of Ammon (Judges 11:32-33).
Joseph was rejected by his brothers because he had favour with his father and he had a dream. They plotted to kill him and instead they threw him in the pit and sold him to the Ishmaelites for 30 pieces of silver- yet these series of events led him to becoming the ruler of Egypt and providing strategies and solutions for a famine that was getting ready to hit Egypt and he was able to save his brothers and his father.
There is a purpose to your rejection. You have been rejected because what you are carrying on the inside of you is far too big for the environment that you are in. Rejection happens when you put the responsibility of accepting and loving you on other people who are incapable of handling the true essence of who you are.
When God’s Hand Is On You
One of the attributes of knowing God’s hand is on you is rejection. When God’s hand is upon you, you will be misunderstood. What people do not understand, they tend to reject. If there is no purpose to a relationship, God will allow rejection in order for you to experience better. At this point in my life, I recognise that rejection is a perception issue. Rejection is often perceived not always intended by the person who you have been rejected by nevertheless it still hurts. You see, it will hurt for a while, but you will see the purpose behind your pain.
To conclude, I want you to know that you have been rejected for a purpose. Open up your heart and receive the love that God has for you. Rejection is painful but rejection actually acts as a catalyst that propels you into discovering your purpose and destiny (O.J. Toks- Rejected For A Purpose). True healing starts when you start to realise that you have been rejected for purpose. If you would like to connect, you can email me on Dahna.firstname.lastname@example.org.
God bless you and thank you for reading